My wish for all of us, especially Lez during these frigid days, is trust in the process. Thank you, Border Collie Woman, for sharing your heart. Please know we support you in all the messiness and pain and chaos of this harsh life event. I've thought a lot about winter, about the natural need to retreat and I commend Lez for her wise decision to withdraw---and to feel the heartache and chaos and smashing of her best-laid plans.